Not sure what I'd do. My son has never had a problem with bullying and other such nonsense or any social issues he couldn't handle himself peacefully. Has to be a tough spot when your kid is ostracized, picked on physically, has a miserable life, and there isn't much you can do about it. Easy to say "I also wouldn't have put my kid into that school" or "homeschool" or "private school", but these options require resources many if not most parents don't have... either a stay at home parent or extra cash.

What about the other extreme (teachers usually take btw). 'It will help toughen him up.'

(05-06-2022 09:00 AM)EverRespect Wrote:  Not sure what I'd do. My son has never had a problem with bullying and other such nonsense or any social issues he couldn't handle himself peacefully. Has to be a tough spot when your kid is ostracized, picked on physically, has a miserable life, and there isn't much you can do about it. Easy to say "I also wouldn't have put my kid into that school" or "homeschool" or "private school", but these options require resources many if not most parents don't have... either a stay at home parent or extra cash.

As a parent, you figure it out. There is literally nothing more important in this world than my kids. If I had to move to get them into a better school district, I'd move. If I had to claim they live with a relative to get them into a different school, I'd do that. There is always an option, and you have to move mountains for your kids sometimes.

(05-06-2022 09:02 AM)Bronco14 Wrote:  What about the other extreme (teachers usually take btw). 'It will help toughen him up.'

Sometimes, through no fault of the parent, they happen to get themselves a pansy. Maybe they are super far behind in physical development, maybe they are disabled, either physically or on the autistic spectrum or something, maybe they have unhealthy levels of anxiety or depression, or maybe they just suck at social cues. In that case, you still have to be their advocate. Not sure a pansy getting the shite kicked out of him just for being a pansy provides any benefit. For most of them it might make matters worse. You have to know your kid.

(05-06-2022 09:06 AM)ECUGrad07 Wrote:  

(05-06-2022 09:00 AM)EverRespect Wrote:  Not sure what I'd do. My son has never had a problem with bullying and other such nonsense or any social issues he couldn't handle himself peacefully. Has to be a tough spot when your kid is ostracized, picked on physically, has a miserable life, and there isn't much you can do about it. Easy to say "I also wouldn't have put my kid into that school" or "homeschool" or "private school", but these options require resources many if not most parents don't have... either a stay at home parent or extra cash.

As a parent, you figure it out. There is literally nothing more important in this world than my kids. If I had to move to get them into a better school district, I'd move. If I had to claim they live with a relative to get them into a different school, I'd do that. There is always an option, and you have to move mountains for your kids sometimes.

Again, easy to say. Also takes time and escalation. When do you make that decision? If your kid comes home and has a shitttty day, you don't just move. Then there is a period where you would have try to work it out. Then there is a period where you may know they don't care for the school but don't know how bad it actually is. And there is also more often than not going to be a period where the pansy child hides it because s/he doesn't want their parent(s) to know they are a pansy. It has to be embarrassing for the kid. In any scenario there is going to be a significant period where the kid is going to be at the school.

My kids don't go to a school where kids would act like this TBH. Plus the actual police station is right next to the high school. The high school doesn't have school security but actual cops. But it's a typical middle class community away from city sized urban areas so our community can have real cops on site in an instant.

School has security cameras no doubt, so anyone who can be identified and throwing punches should be automatically expelled permanently.

(05-06-2022 09:19 AM)EverRespect Wrote:  

(05-06-2022 09:06 AM)ECUGrad07 Wrote:  

(05-06-2022 09:00 AM)EverRespect Wrote:  Not sure what I'd do. My son has never had a problem with bullying and other such nonsense or any social issues he couldn't handle himself peacefully. Has to be a tough spot when your kid is ostracized, picked on physically, has a miserable life, and there isn't much you can do about it. Easy to say "I also wouldn't have put my kid into that school" or "homeschool" or "private school", but these options require resources many if not most parents don't have... either a stay at home parent or extra cash.

As a parent, you figure it out. There is literally nothing more important in this world than my kids. If I had to move to get them into a better school district, I'd move. If I had to claim they live with a relative to get them into a different school, I'd do that. There is always an option, and you have to move mountains for your kids sometimes.

Again, easy to say. Also takes time and escalation. When do you make that decision? If your kid comes home and has a shitttty day, you don't just move. Then there is a period where you would have try to work it out. Then there is a period where you may know they don't care for the school but don't know how bad it actually is. And there is also more often than not going to be a period where the pansy child hides it because s/he doesn't want their parent(s) to know they are a pansy. It has to be embarrassing for the kid. In any scenario there is going to be a significant period where the kid is going to be at the school.

Before Kindergarten. I'm homeschooling my kids (6 & 2) right now because we live in Louisiana at the moment. I wouldn't ever subject my kids to the types of schools we have here in Lafayette. I can't afford private school.

Wherever we move next, we will make sure that the schools are up to our standards. If that means doing with less and putting our kids in some sort of private school, so be it.

(05-06-2022 09:43 AM)ECUGrad07 Wrote:  

(05-06-2022 09:19 AM)EverRespect Wrote:  

(05-06-2022 09:06 AM)ECUGrad07 Wrote:  

(05-06-2022 09:00 AM)EverRespect Wrote:  Not sure what I'd do. My son has never had a problem with bullying and other such nonsense or any social issues he couldn't handle himself peacefully. Has to be a tough spot when your kid is ostracized, picked on physically, has a miserable life, and there isn't much you can do about it. Easy to say "I also wouldn't have put my kid into that school" or "homeschool" or "private school", but these options require resources many if not most parents don't have... either a stay at home parent or extra cash.

As a parent, you figure it out. There is literally nothing more important in this world than my kids. If I had to move to get them into a better school district, I'd move. If I had to claim they live with a relative to get them into a different school, I'd do that. There is always an option, and you have to move mountains for your kids sometimes.

Again, easy to say. Also takes time and escalation. When do you make that decision? If your kid comes home and has a shitttty day, you don't just move. Then there is a period where you would have try to work it out. Then there is a period where you may know they don't care for the school but don't know how bad it actually is. And there is also more often than not going to be a period where the pansy child hides it because s/he doesn't want their parent(s) to know they are a pansy. It has to be embarrassing for the kid. In any scenario there is going to be a significant period where the kid is going to be at the school.

Before Kindergarten. I'm homeschooling my kids (6 & 2) right now because we live in Louisiana at the moment. I wouldn't ever subject my kids to the types of schools we have here in Lafayette. I can't afford private school.

Wherever we move next, we will make sure that the schools are up to our standards. If that means doing with less and putting our kids in some sort of private school, so be it.

So a one-size-fits all approach. I suppose that's fine if it works for you. My son thrives in school. Would never had known how much he needed to be the building full of other kids if not for Covid. Homeschooling would have ruined him (not to mention my wife probably isn't cut out for it either with regards to enforcing organization and structure). I truly believe I could send him to the shitttiest public school in DC, Los Angeles, NY, or Chicago and, even as a middle-class white boy, he'd end up better off both academically and socially and would be happier than if he was homeschooled. He would have graduated at the top of his class without having to do a microsecond of homework or studying and ended up with Ivy League offers because of the simple fact that he went to a shitttty school. Some no doubt thrive better in the homeschool environment. I guess you don't know until you know.